为什么中国的老人都喜欢穷养男,富养女一个在经济方面很困窘的女孩子,很容易养成自卑、怨恨、猜忌的性格,对别人的物质丰富的日常生活产生强烈的落差感。看到穿漂亮衣服就觉得她是在炫耀,并会对男人的善意感到受宠若惊,会为一些其实并不能表达诚意的礼物所动心。这样的女孩还很容易贪婪,小气,缺乏上进心。因为无法获得物质,会担心已经拥有的会失去,而很难做到在生活上的洒脱。自卑,不敢打扮,不会打扮,没有机会打扮。最后的结果就是,很大程度上低估自己的价值,只要稍稍有一个人对她们表示了细致的关心,甚或者,投入一些微小的物质诱惑——她们就会很容易沦陷。富养女孩,就是要在物质上开阔其视野,精神上丰富其思想,这样的女孩才能独立自主、见多识广、高雅睿智、一生幸福!男孩儿要穷养是说要培养男孩吃苦耐劳的精神,以免宽裕的生活产生懈怠之心。孟子曰:“天将降大任于斯人也,必先苦其心志,劳其筋骨,饿其体肤,空乏其身,行拂乱其所为,所以动心忍性,曾益其所不能。”只有经历过坎坷磨砺,性情坚忍的人才能担当大任,只有“穷”过的男孩才明白优裕生活的可贵,才知道如何去创造财富,才懂得珍惜来之不易的幸福生活。社会赋予男孩的责任就是要有所担当。作为父母,有责任教育男孩独立,男孩只有独立自主,才能够顶起属于自己的天空,才能成为对社会有用的人。所谓独立,就是要在人格上独立,思想上独立,经济上独立,更要在经济上独立。为了达到这个目标,父母需要培养男孩的各种生存技能和对未来规划的能力。Why Chinese old people like to let his son live a hard life, and let her daughter has a wealth of materialA girl in the economy so embarrassing, it is easy to form inferiority, resentment, jealousy personality, to others the material wealth of daily life produced a strong gap sense. See wear beautiful clothes feel she is showing off and will goodwill to men feel flattered, for some fact and can not express the sincere gift the girl is also very easy to be greedy, stingy, lack of ambition. Because of the inability to obtain material, would have worried about losing, but difficult to do in life free and easy. Inferiority, dare not dress up, will not dress up, no chance to dress up. The final result is, to a large extent underestimate the value of their own, as long as there is a little one to them said the meticulous care, or even into some small material temptation, they will be very easy to fall. Nutrient rich girl, is to broaden its field of view on the matter, spirit of rich thought, this girl could be independent, well-informed, elegant wise, the life is happy!The boy to the poor raised is to cultivate the spirit of hard work, so as to avoid the slack life of the heart. Mencius said: "days will be down to the great man also, must suffer, the labor of their bones, hungry, his body skin, depletion of their body, the brush it was chaos, so touching, it not beneficial." Only experienced the ups and downs honed, temperament fortitude to bear responsibility, only the "poor" the boy just understand affluent life is precious, and they know how to create wealth, only know how to cherish the hard won happiness. The responsibility of the society to the boy is to have a sense of responsibility. As a parent, it is compulsory to educate the boy, the boy is independent, only to be able to rise to the sky, can be useful to the society. The so-called independent, is to be independent in personality, independent thinking, economic independence, but also to be economically independent. In order to achieve this goal, parents need to develop a variety of survival skills and the ability to plan for the future of the boy