科学家庭教育论文参考文献

家庭教育对孩子成长的影响论文

如今的父母认为，生养一个孩子，让他好好学习都是为他好，能够找一份好的工作。人的成长是一辈子的事情，绝对不是你在小学、大学所得的分数决定的。分数对于孩子来说很重要，但是不能因为孩子分数低就认为孩子没出息。真正觉悟的父母的爱，应该是我们对自己的小孩没有期待，不管他怎样我们都爱他，我们尽己所能，但不要求他。下面我就孩子的教育问题谈谈我自己的想法：

1．不要以孩子为中心

家庭教育是不可以完全以孩子为中心的，应该以一种平等的身份地位去陪伴孩子成长。如果以孩子为中心，他就会在溺爱中成长，不利于孩子的身心发育。我们这一代，大部分都是独生子女，集万千宠爱于一生，读书是唯一的出路，有的孩子在读书阶段，什么都不做，只要你在学习，家里的电视开静音，一家人只看图片，或者戴耳机。本来读书是一件重要的事，但是试问，毕业后还会遇到工作，成家、生孩子等重要的事情，每个人都要去考虑你的感受吗？我们只能适应社会，越早适应，今后受的苦越少。

2．不要一手包办

孩子从有行为能力的那一刻开始，就必须鼓励和引导孩子学习独立性，让孩子从小就养成自理自立的好习惯。父母认为孩子还小，不懂事，所以自己成了孩子的CEO，有的孩子，从幼儿园开始就在补课，奥数，画画，大点了加上语文，后来又是英语，等等，一个周末，1天半补课，1个假期，1个半月补课，成天只学习，不用做家务，不和同龄孩子耍，孩子小，没有反抗，一旦到了青春期，有自己的意识加上荷尔蒙作祟，突然变得很暴躁，父母的任何话都可能成为激怒他的理由。

3．不要有求必应

孩子要求得到的东西，家长要有原则性地衡量是否可以买，是否有必要买，买了有什么作用。盲目地满足孩子的需求，这无疑是害了孩子。有的父母觉得只要孩子考得好，几百上千的条件都能够满足，殊不知，父母的钱也是风里来雨里去，用汗水换回来的。

4．培养孩子守时和诚信

在我上课的过程中，很多学生总是迟到，也不是非要迟到很久，就是那么两三分钟。其实这个和父母的教育有关，比如有的父母给孩子在课外报培训班，马上上课了，心情一不好，不去了，家长马上给老师打电话说孩子不舒服，说把课程换到明天。孩子觉得原来所有事情可以靠父母一句话就够了，于是动不动就不去上课。久而久之，他就没有了纪律观念，学校的课也就不重视了。他认为父母会帮自己的，迟到，甚至逃课、旷课也就成了家常便饭了。

5．正确使用手机，远离网瘾

有手机的学生，根本不会去听老师讲的知识，很容易成绩下降或成绩较差。迷恋网络玄幻小说、打网络游戏……极易上瘾，根本无法控制，甚至肆无忌惮，完全陶醉在虚幻的世界里。上课昏昏沉沉，对枯燥的学习更是失去兴趣，学习成绩一落千丈。凡是出现成绩突然下滑、厌学、逃学、辍学的，家长一定要引起重视。几乎每节课，我都可以发现边听课边玩手机的人，讲的重点也被忽略。一定要帮助孩子树立人生观、世界观、价值观，孩子学习才会有动力。情商、逆商比智商重要，要会化解自己的情绪，照顾别人的情绪，培养孩子的精、气、神，父母一定要成为孩子的人生导师，能够为孩子解读孩子犯的错。

6．降低对孩子的期望

小时候是一个很聪明很听话的孩子，之后变得叛逆、厌学，主要原因就是家长有恐惧心理，总害怕孩子以后不成才，把自己没有实现的理想寄托在他身上，因此对他期望值高，要求高，管得太多太死。这样的教育违背了人成长的规律，使孩子头脑知识多了，空间少了，智慧少了。同时由于压力过大，使孩子产生了逆反心理和厌学情绪。应从这样的教育误区中走出来，使孩子走上正常轨道。

7．结语

父母的一言一行、一举一动对子女都有着言传身教、陶冶习染和潜移默化的作用。父母要努力使自己成为高素质的父母。

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